Think that homeschooled kids don’t get enough socalization? Take a look at some of the social benefits of homeschooling!
“But what about socialization??” Those are four words that every homeschool mom in America is so so sooooooo tired of hearing.
It’s the question we’re most asked. People seem to think that if children aren’t in school there is no possible way they are going to make friends. They seem to think that homeschool means that we keep our kids at home all day every day and have no interaction with the outside world.
While I’m sure there are some homeschoolers who don’t get out into the world, the exact opposite is true for the other 99% of us. Just today I was sitting down with the upcoming school year’s calendar figuring out what activities to participate in. Sometimes we have to bow out of activities in order to make time for actual school work!
This year we have opportunities for a homeschool gym class, art enrichment classes, a history class, and an outdoor adventure workshop. That doesn’t even include play dates, park outings, field trips, and other fun activities! Our social calendar is filling up fast.
Which leads me to my point. While a lot of people may think that homeschooling somehow inhibits socalization, I would argue that there are many many social benefits of homeschooling!
#1- Kids get to actually be social at gatherings-
So how many times in school were you told, “this isn’t a time to socalize?” I know as a big time talker I got told that all the time!! For most kids sitting in classrooms their social time is limited to in between classes, during recess, at lunch or gym, for the hours spent in school the social time is limited.
In homeschool situations, we all know that the kids are there to learn, have fun, and socialize. Most activities are planned with the idea of cooperative learning, group activities, and plenty of time for running around and enjoying each others company. Of course there are some classes that are more classroom like where they have to be quiet and pay attention, but often we plan a fun activity afterword! When we go to homeschool gatherings we know that a huge part is getting social and having fun while learning!
Yes, getting to actually be social is one of the biggest social benefits of homeschooling!
#2- Kids get to know each other without outside influence-
The thing about society is that we like labels. In large groups cliques form, and people group together with others like them. I’m not going to say that the homeschool community is without its cliques, but more often kids get to know each other without any labels or influence from others. They get to form their own opinions of each individual they come in contact with, not knowing if they’re a jock, or a computer geek, or any of the other labels you find in school situations. There is an openness to get to know each other without any influence from other kids. There is no sitting alone at a lunch table because the other kids have decided they don’t like you and their friends aren’t allowed to either, there is no not having a partner in science class because no one from your social group is in that class. There is a sense of inclusion and kids can learn to like each other for their unique personalities.
#3- They interact with all different ages & grade levels-
At the average homeschool gathering, we go to there are kids ranging in age from 3 to 17. What I love seeing is all of the kids playing together. One of the social benefits of homeschooling is that you’ll have a 10-year-old and a 6-year-old hanging out playing Pokemon. You’ll see a 13-year-old engaging with a preschooler. There is no sense of difference in age or grade level. Kids don’t look at younger kids and see anything but another potential friend. There is nothing wrong with hanging out with the younger kids, and more mature kids can find friends that are older than them but share common interests. I remember being a kid and how important your grade was, and how so often you only hung out with other kids your age. That is almost non-existent in the homeschool world.
#4- You can pick who you hang out with-
When I first started homeschooling I was involved in a great group that we did classes and field trips with. As the time went on and the group evolved I found it wasn’t a good fit for me anymore. I sought out another group that we’re involved with now and absolutely love it. When your child is in school they’re kind of stuck with their class and the people in it. If they’re not making friends, they just kind of have to tough it out. A big social benefit of homeschooling is that you can seek out “your people,” you can arrange playdates with friends you want to spend more time with, you can shy away from activities that aren’t a good fit, or that your child won’t enjoy. Yes, you may have conflict, there may be that one kid that your child just can’t seem to get along with, but for the most part you have the ability to be choosy where, and with whom you spend your time.
#5- Your child gets to really be themselves-
Have a son who wants to take dance classes? Does your daughter want to shave her head? While in an ideal world they could do those things and not be made fun of in school often kids that aren’t “normal” get bullied or they don’t pursue their interests for fear of judgement. In the homeschool community everyone is figuring themselves out, they are taking classes, trying new things, and figuring out what they really like to do. There is much more free time for kids to immerse themselves in their interests and to find out what they are really passionate about. Often we participate in groups where the kids can do a project, show and tell, or have a chance for public speaking. This gives them an opportunity to share their ideas and interests with others and talk to them about it. The kids love hearing what each other have to say, asking questions, and learning from each other. It is a great atmosphere for kids to figure out who they are from within without a lot of outside influence.
Hopefully, as homeschooling becomes more popular the question about socialization will become a thing of the past! Until then those of us who educate our kids at home will continue to enjoy these social benefits of homeschooling!
Do you homeschool? What do you think are the social benefits of homeschooling?
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annette @ A net in Time says
that was well written, glad I stopped by.
that whole grade thing I totally understand, I didn’t live like that in school, but I remember being at the playground with my lad and a little girl didn’t want to play with my lad because he wasn’t in grade one… and it seemed rather odd to me.
Lisa @ NatureImmerse says
When you’re totally overwhelmed, it can be hard to take steps to improve your situation. Sometimes too much stress makes you feel like you can’t do anything, and that makes everything seem even more out-of-control.
James Anderson says
If you want to make your children social at gatherings, co-operative, knowing each other well there is no alternative to homeschooling. Otherwise, a child stays away from the natural way of social. Parents are big factor in this situation, If parents are not allowed their children to homeschool it will be a long-term effect on them(children)
Kelly B says
I think my kids also socialize with adults better, too! There is a healthy respect for their parents and other parents or leaders for field trips. So many times I have heard students disrespectful to teachers, etc but I just haven’t seen that in any of the groups I have been apart of.
Also with field trips my kids will approach the leader/ranger/volunteer and ask questions!!!! Or smile and start a conversation with an elderly adult at the nursing home. They will search out info they need at local businesses or the library from adult workers or staff… partially because we have visited numerous businesses and they have interacted before with these people.
Finally, homeschooling has afforded us time to socialize as a family. We are busy but together most of the day. And homework doesn’t take evening time away from family time. Having children different ages has given my older kids a peek into being “a parent” and baby care!
Chiska says
We started homeschooling 2 years ago and that is exactly what we found. Suddenly our very shy daughter wasn’t so shy. Our kids didn’t worry as much and learned how to communicate better. It’s not without its challenges, but we’ve loved how much closer our kids are to each other. I love your first one–They get to socialize. One of the comments a teacher made when we took our kids out of school was that she didn’t think we should because our son was so social. I’m so glad I didn’t listen because he is so social and now he can socialize.
Elzaan says
Hello
My major concern ,when we decided to homeschool, is that my little social boy of 5 is going to miss having friends.
We recently moved to Seyschelles and I was happy to stop working and finally being a mommy.
I have posted on the local Expat Forum to find home schooling group but being a small island this doesn’t seem to be a thing.
Any tips/ideas what to do, I feel like we need to reconsider our decision as he is very unhappy. It’s been 3 weeks and he is seriously acting out.
Krista says
Are there any local activities like a martial arts class, library events or scouts you could get him involved in? Remember you don’t have to look just for homeschooling groups but any other activities that would get him involved and interacting with other kids!
Sarah says
The idea of this post is wonderful but the typos and clear misuse of the English language really paints homeschooling in a bad light here! PLEASE edit this article! Please have a friend who knows the difference between possessive “its” with no apostrophe and “it’s” which is “it is” thoroughly go through this article and edit it for you. Please give outsiders the best impression of homeschoolers.