My children have been bickering all day….
My house is a mess… the laundry pile is nearly a tall a me.
Finances are tight, the dog is sick, and it’s taken my son 45 minutes to get through 3 math problems…
It’s a pull your hair out, why in the world do I do this, kind of day.
We all have them.
Those days when you look around and think, “Why am I doing this?? Wouldn’t it be easier to just put them on a bus to school every morning?”
There are other days when you feel like you’ve hit a wall, like no matter how hard you try, how creative you can be, how many Pinterest ideas you pull out of the hat your child is just incapable of learning his multiplication tables.
You wonder if you’re failing them. You wonder if someone else would be better equipped to teach your kids, if they’d listen to someone else. You wonder if this whole idea is just a big mistake.
I’ve been doing this homeschool thing for 11 years now. You’d think those days would be well past me. That after years of experience I’d be in the groove and have conquered every obstacle.
Well I haven’t. Although most days go smoothly. Most days are fun, and full of learning and everything I want my kids homeschool experience to be, there are always those days.
Each child is different, each day is different, and so each day can bring new challenges that can sometimes make us question what in the world we’re thinking.
It’s those days when it is so so so so important that you know, deep down in your heart why you are doing this, and then on top of that reason, you need layered on other reasons that help really solidify your decision so that on days that test you, you’ve got a nice big pile of reasons to remind yourself.
I read several times about homeschool families writing a mission statement, and quite frankly I thought that just seemed silly. I mean why do I need to write out why I homeschool?? I just do it… there’s nothing more than that.
But one day I realized that even if you don’t have a well thought out, drafted, revised and written mission statement. Having the knowledge of why you homeschool is key to getting through days where you want to throw in the towel.
I’ve written before about the heart of why I homeschool. How I don’t want to let these precious years while my kids are home and little slip through my fingers. On an emotional, loving mama level that is exactly what drives me every day, and why I love having my kiddos at home.
But beyond that? Yes, there’s more, there’s other reasons and they are equally important.
I homeschool because my Nathan is an incredibly smart, creative kid, but he would not thrive in a classroom. He needs a lot of one on one attention to learn some things, he needs hands on activities, he needs time to absorb everything and master it before moving on.
Daniel is a crazy man. He needs to be challenged, he needs to be stimulated, and to be able to jump up and down and run around in between math and reading time.
When I started homeschooling it was because Anthony was miserable in school every day. He cried every morning, he cried every night, he hated it, for no concrete reason, just hated going to school. I decided that there wasn’t any reason for him to be so miserable, to end up hating learning, and that we had to try something else.
My point is that as a homeschool mom you have to identify why you’re doing it. For me it comes down to identifying it for each of my kids individually. Maybe for you it is about writing a mission statement that pertains to your whole family. Maybe you have an individual mission for each child.
Whatever it is, I encourage you to get to know it deep in your heart. Whether you are a person who likes to write things down. Or whether you choose to just give it some thought and meditation. No matter what your style is, identifying why you homeschool is something that I think is key to success.
When you hold these reasons clear in your mind it helps on days when you feel like throwing in the towel might be your best option.
I encourage you to take the time to really think it through, remind yourself of your reasons every day before you start schooling because when you know why you’re doing something it makes the challenges much easier to over come.
Do you have a homeschool mission statement? What are your reasons for homeschooling?
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