I swore when I had boys that I would never be the mom who thinks that no girl is good enough for her son. I swore that I would be kind to the girls who came into their lives, and that I would realize even though I think my boys are awesome that they aren’t perfect.
I’ve always hated it when I hear mom’s saying that no girl will be good enough for their son… do they forget they were once those girls? I’ve promised myself that as a mom that I would give each girl a fair chance, and try and raise my sons to recognize a great woman when they meet her.
And now as they are starting to date and girls are coming in and out of their lives I’ve realized something…I don’t want the woman they marry to be good enough for them.
My dear future daughter in law,
I hope you are not good enough for my son.
I want you to be too good for him.
I want you to be a girl that when he meets you he thinks you are out of his league. I want him to think that a girl like you would never date a guy like him.
I want you to be a girl who has confidence and loads of self respect, one that he has to work for, and is maybe even a little intimidated by.
I want you to be a girl with big goals and dreams, one who is motivated and whose self worth won’t be wrapped up in my son. I want you to be a whole complete person without him. For him to be someone who helps bring out the best in you that was already there.,
And I want you to do the same for him. Good enough isn’t what he needs. What he needs is someone to inspire him. Someone to motivate him, challenge him, someone to be his partner and companion on his path to pursuing his big dreams. He may need pushed sometimes, reminded of his goals, I want you to do that for him. To remind him and encourage him to be is absolute best.
I don’t want the two of you to have a good enough life. I want it to be spectacular and full of joy. I don’t want your relationship to be good enough I want it to be amazing, loving, supportive, and nurturing.
I want you to bring out the best in him and he in you. I want you to be a woman who makes his life better by being in it and being a part of it and I want him to know that.
I want him to recognize that you are different from other girls. That you are special, valuable, and someone that should be treated as such. I want to see him grow into a man who sees these qualities and cherishes and nurtures them.
I promise that I will try my best to raise him to recognize how valuable you are, and teach him how to treat you in a way that is far, far beyond good enough, because I know that you’ll deserve that.
My hope is that my wonderful, wild, boys grow to be incredible husbands to extraordinary women.
So my dear future daughter in law when I meet you I will be happy if you are not good enough, because my hope is that you will be so much more.