Now you may be wondering why a mom like me, one who homeschools and loves it would write a post like this.
Well… homeschooling has it’s cons. Some days you may bang your head against an algebra book, or totally loose your shit with your kids… yep there are cons.
When I wrote this post last week and was thinking of all the amazing reasons that people should homeschool… some not so positive aspects came into my head.
Why share them? For a few reasons, I’m a keepin’ it real kind of girl and as a homeschool mom I’ve navigated all of these not so great aspects. And I’m hoping to help anyone who is considering homeschooling to realize that there are hard parts.
The great part? If you know them ahead of time you can find ways to work through it, and even if you’re a veteran homeschooler knowing your not alone in the difficulties helps more than anything.
#1- Its a Ton of Pressure– Let’s put this on the table first. Because it’s the one that gets me at least a couple of times throughout the school year. I am responsible for EVERYTHING. I’m teaching my kids to brush their teeth, clean their room, how to be functional productive human beings. I am feeding them, clothing them… typical mom things. But add to that I am responsible for their education… that’s a big ball to not drop. I have to make sure they have well rounded opportunities, that they have avenues to make friends… Sometimes having all that on your shoulders is overwhelming and the pressure gets to your.
#2- You Become the Biggest Evil in Your Child’s life– That’s kind of dramatic… but some days not so much. You tell them to clean their room and give them spelling tests… There are days where you are just not any fun at all. Your kid can’t come home and rant about how mean their teacher is because well… it’s you. Some days knowing your are far from your kid’s favorite person is a hard pill to swallow.
#3- Your House is Very… Lived in– It’s a mess. There it is. Your house is being used 24/7 you are eating 3 meals at home, you are creating craft projects, science experiments, planning lessons. THere is always something going on, or running to do, and the housework gets lost in the shuffle. You don’t get to clean on weekends and then send everybody off for the week… everybody is there, and doing a lot of living.
#4- Sometimes Making Friends is hard– Oh the socialization aspect of homeschooling. It’s the question we get thrown all the time. And sometimes it’s really not as easy as you want it to be. Finding groups of like minded homeschoolers, scout troops, sports teams can require a lot of looking and patience. Kids can be standoffish to the new kid, or think their weird because they don’t go to school . It can be a little tricky to navigate, and sometimes really disappointing, for the kids and for mom.
#5- Homeschooling Can Be Expensive– It’s no secret that homeschooling takes a lot of resources, and between class fees, curriculum, workbooks, supplies… it can get pricey. While it doesn’t have to be, if you cut the financial expenses you often need to have time as an expendable resource. It can be done but finding free classes, great co-ops or putting together free resources in a lesson plan takes time.
Can these things be discouraging? For sure. But the best way to overcome obstacles is by knowing what you’re up against and having an action plan. It’s also so important to know what your homeschool goals are, what you’re working for, and why you’re doing it. Those goals will help you navigate the difficult parts by keeping your eyes on what’s really important!
Do you homeschool? What’s your biggest “con”? Thinking of homeschooling, what worry holds you back?